Balanced parenting and productivity over weekends
Memorial Day weekend is finally here and many of us have three days off to kick off the beginning of summer here in Texas. Parents with children in school are adjusting for the summer season and making plans. While relaxing is on the agenda of some this Memorial Day, others have extensive “to do” lists. When you have an extra day to play with, the possibilities may seem endless. The extra day can be a project day and when you start making lists, the expectations grow. With excitement also comes anxiety for busy and productive people who feel they come up short at the end of the weekend. Stressing over not getting enough done is hardly the best way to approach Monday and the coming week. As parents, we may all consider taking a few steps towards better life management practices so weekends are productive and fulfilling.
Why do we put so much emphasis on productive weekends?
Some say the times and technology changed the way we approach the weekends and our balance of recreation and productive work. In the past, more of us left work at the office and were not accessible during weekends by mobile devices, laptops and so forth. Work has creeped into our “non-work” time; do we still have an expectation of weekend privacy?
Do you talk to your friends and ask, “What all did you do this weekend?” The answer to that question is tribute and badge of honor for some of the busiest and most productive weekender parents. If your children play sports, have weekend social group activities, and are busy with friends, it can be like a sport to weave in time for household chores, errands and adult social activities.
The dread of not rising to superstar status; failing to accomplish everything on your list.
On Friday evenings, Mondays seem forever far away. Saturday morning is when reality hits many of us, we only have two full days to get everything done and live it up. Sleeping in too late on a Saturday might be the pride of a few, but to others, a long night’s slumber takes away from time to attack the “to do” list.
Sundays are particularly difficult for some people who have the blues. Crowds at the grocery store, cranky people at shopping malls and kids running around can get the best of people facing the reality that Monday morning is right around the corner. Did they get enough done this weekend? Are they happy? Did they get to relax?
What about limiting productive work to one day of the weekend?
Simple “work / reward” logic tells us we might have more balance by limiting the expectations of productive work during the weekend. Setting out to be a Saturday warrior at a breakneck pace, can lead to a satisfying list of weekend accomplishments.
Reserving Sundays to spend time with family and friends, or alone reading a book, can be the important down time needed to effective balance work and life. In the past, Sunday blue laws and church commitments limited the expectation of productivity on Sundays. In current days, many more stores and businesses are open on Sundays. Sunday used to be a sacred time, our only free day.
Have a Happy Memorial Day weekend and welcome to summer!
Enjoy the three-day weekend and nice weather this weekend. We hope everyone has great plans this summer and will have many great stories to tell about time spent with family and friends. Parents will be busy and making those lists. Hopefully, some of the “to dos” can wait for next weekend.
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